What if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up?
I don’t know.
I’m not really sure.
I used to know but now…
Somehow I ended up in X industry but what I really want to do is…
I hear these answers when I ask people where they’d like to be in five years. It’s a standard interview question but the truth is most of us just don’t spend that much time thinking about it. There are jobs needing done, bills to pay, parties to attend, holidays to prepare for, mouths to feed, laundry to do and on it goes.
Somehow we drift through life without a goal and then wonder how we got there.
If that’s you I have two things to say to you:
- You’re not alone. There’s no shame in waking up one day and wondering where you are headed in life. Many people have the same experience every day.
- It’s time to stop drifting. I believe about you that deep down in your heart there is a flicker of flame. That flame is a passion to help someone, build something, or change the world. Don’t you want to see what happens if you fan it to flame?
But I have obstacles…
I know you have responsibilities. You work full time. You have a family to take care of. You have bills to pay. Quite frankly, you don’t know where you would get the time to dream.
I get it because I’ve been there. I work a day job myself. For two years I worked enough overtime to increase my salary by 30% just trying to make ends meet. But you know what? I was miserable. I had no vision, no focus, and thought I would never do anything I was passionate about again.
One day I started to catch a vision. I noticed that people were coming to me to talk about their problems. I’d hear things like “Wow, I did all the talking here.” Or, “Thank you for listening. I know what to do now.” I began to catch a vision for doing this full-time and explored coaching. That’s how Believe Again Coaching was born. But it took time to get there. And I’m still pushing the snowball downhill.
You might be in a similar place. You just cannot see past the obstacles in your way. You’re too busy shuffling kids around to think about yourself. Or you are ruled by the tyranny of the urgent and never get to think about where you want to go. Life just sucks the vision right out of you.
Five Years From Now
I renewed my driver’s license this week. The new one expires in 2019. That’s five years from now. It got me thinking about what life would be like then. Things can change fast. In 2009 I was just finishing a graduate degree and only had three kids! Now we have four amazing kids and I can barely remember what it was like to be in school.
What about you?
What do you want your life to be like in five years?
What might change between now and then?
That last question has two answers, one that’s scary and one that’s amazing.
The scary answer is that if you keep doing everything the same as you do today you are likely to be as stuck (or more so) in five years as you are today. You’ll just have more experience in that field of work you don’t like and be older. It’s the old saying often attributed to Albert Einstein: “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.”
The amazing (and true!) answer is that you could be anywhere you want to be in five years. It could be making money online and spending all your time on the beach. Or maybe your dream is to leave your corporate job and go help people in a way never done before. It could be to finally launch that new business that’s been in the back of your mind for years now.
Whatever your dream is I know (and believe you do too, deep down) that unless you invest the time to get very clear about what it is you want then you will never get any of it. Once you know what and why? How to get there will no longer seem to be as huge an obstacle as it does now.
Let’s Dream Together
If any of this resonates with you, I want to invite you to join me for Believe Again’s Dream Again class.
Together, we will go through an exercise called The Interview. This is an amazingly simple thought tool – it’s only eight questions – but I promise that you will also find it a powerful tool for clarity. The Interview helps you to step outside your current circumstances, restrictions, and baggage to see what could be.
Some people who have recently worked with me say this:
“Eric is a wonderful coach who possesses great acumen and highly-developed, active listening skills. His thought-provoking questions and keen insights challenged me to reorient my priorities and to implement practices that permit me to focus on my real passion and calling in life.” Michael K.
“Eric was able to walk me through a few mental road blocks inhibiting my ability to get a clear vision of where I wanted to be. He also helped me take my ideas and make them actions with distinguishable, and achievable deliverables and deadlines.” Jason R.
“I feel I have more confidence in my role as a pastor and a better vision for the future. I think we all have hopes in our careers and life, but sometimes those vanish or are hidden behind endless to-do lists. Eric has helped me to see those hopes again and work toward making my hopes a reality.” Bryan R.
One more from Bryan’s wife:
“Shortly after starting to meet with Eric I noticed…the pieces of the the puzzle in this new career are starting to make sense and fall into place for him. As his wife, it has been great to see how he has changed and how he is leading the congregation.” Shauna R.
Now here’s the question I have for you. What might your life look like in five years if you invest just a little bit in yourself? (I’m not talking about money…keep reading for more details.) What might your wife or husband say about you?
How Does it Work?
Is something stirring in you? If so, look at your Monday evenings starting October 13. Are you free? Can you clear time? Why not join me for Dream Again?
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